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Aug 19, 2215

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You may ask yourself what a Boog is. It is a 1/2 book, 1/2 blog, with a little bit of boogie and boogers. Sometimes there's joy, and sometimes, let's be honest, there's guck. I wanted to welcome you to Our Journey with Joisey. If you are a bereaved parent, I want you to know how deeply sorry I am for the loss that you have experienced. Whether a nonviable pregnancy, a miscarriage, stillbirth, chromosomal anomaly, or infant loss, I want you to know that you are not alone on the road to learning to live again, in the face of great tragedy. If you want to know why I care, you can read about me under the "momma pantera" tab. I too, am 1 in 4. (more like 1/1000 for full-term stillbirth)

I advise that during this season, you be as gentle with yourself as possible. I remember having very realistic expectations of myself in the beginning. Absolutely nothing. And that is okay. I encourage you to solicit the help of your loved ones so you can have whatever you need to venture through these trying times. If you don't have a great support system, there are plenty private groups where you can find a ton of support. my favorite stillbirth sypport group ishttps://www.facebook.com/groups/SOBBS/

This Boog is a personal journey, but I have been told by many bereaved parents that they have found encouragement, purpose, and even peace with their own loss, through journeying together. Sometimes it's specific to my daughter, but for the most part, I am just a willing vessel the Lord uses, to speak to many families who have to lose a child, and the tone is truly just heavenly encouragement. Though our culture, beliefs, family dynamics or socioeconomic status may differ, we share this in common; furious love for our children...grief can suck. and we ought not to go through it alone.

HOW TO READ THIS BOOG if you are newly bereaved, i suggest you read 'the vision' tab all the way on the left. skip 'the pregnancy' tab. and start reading 'when forever began' from oldest to newest.CLICK HERE TO BE REROUTED DIRECTLY THERE start from the bottom up. and click "newer post" when you are done with that page. the first post is the 20 page labor experience. you can skip that if you'd like. but do not read from newest to oldest because it won't make much sense. read the poetry tab at your leisure. it's just some great encouraging reminders for us. when you are ready to read about the pregnancy. there's just a lot of beauty and hope in there. in spite of the way the story "ended". it doesn't negate the life Joislen lived. and we celebrate that. we encourage you to celebrate your child's life as well. and honor their eternal spirit. the pregnancy tab from oldest to newest is HERE and same kind of deal, click newer post when you are done with that page and read from the bottom up.

for those of you reading for the sake of reading, read from the tab all the way to the left. and just read straight across. from oldest to newest. so if you are new to this blog, don't just scroll down. Click on the tab you want to start in, and read from oldest to newest, using the links above.
We love you guys so much. You are in our prayers. please feel free to email us atjoislengrace@gmail.com

In Christ,


The Taylor's

what an artist

Jan 23, 2017

Our Tiffany York has done it again! This is the second family she has recreated a picture for, hand drawn pencil art. She spends hours on end, days, sometimes even weeks on these pictures. To give a grieving family a piece of their child awake, without the painful reminders that are on the actual photos. She works out the skin breakdown and introduces some life to the baby (aydens eye is opened) while staying true to the integrity of the original picture. We're so blessed to be close to this amazing artist whose heart Joislen touched and in turn she designs something special for a near angel family. Shelby, we love you and Ayden. Tiff thanks again. Your an angel to the angels 






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We remember you

Jan 22, 2017

Dwayne is the best daddy in the world. Wears his Joislen bracelets everyday. And d3s on his other wrist. I'm blessed.


my babies


miss grace. miss grace.

Jan 15, 2017

i missed joislen so much today. you kinda just learn to breathe through it. and hug those who remain a little tighter. i just miss my daughter.Image may contain: drawing

I waited for you. Now you're waiting for me πŸ‘ΌπŸ½πŸ‘ΈπŸ½

Jan 13, 2017

with me

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The rain looks like a starry night! I'm so excited for my final clinical rotation!!! #finishstrong πŸ’ͺ🏾🏩 the only letter left from the "joy" I put on this badge 3 years ago is the J. And that now stands for Joislen. She takes the "oy" of our of my endeavors--stress free zone! It's truly all good. This means so much to me cuz before I left the house this morning I thought πŸ’­ I want her with me today somehow...and I forgot to grab a piece of her jewelry. And now. Not only is she in my heart. But she's the J that remains on my badge. J is for Joislen. My gift back baby πŸ€ΆπŸ½

from auntie deonna

Jan 9, 2017

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Kamama πŸ‘ΌπŸ½. You're a good auntie. You're a great auntie and all our babies love you. πŸ‘ΆπŸ½πŸ‘§πŸ½πŸ‘ΌπŸ½

we miss you!

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First onesie in his drawer. First zip up sweater I saw and threw on. After I got us dressed I realized we were both thinking of SOS today πŸ‘ΌπŸ½

what do you love about your angel?

Jan 7, 2017

Joislen. One of the countless reasons I love you, is because you were never tainted by this world, so your pureness in my heart is unchangeable; your smile warms my heart through death to life. πŸ¦‹πŸ’› my joyous girl. Daddy "Joislen and I love that she made it to heaven"

contributing author!

Jan 4, 2017

PALS invited me to be a monthly contributing author :) the piece I wrote last month was published today. Way too excited to be a part of something so near to my heart 







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ihop!

Dec 24, 2016

all the cousins went to Ihop! and we had a joislen baloon made for the festivities

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North Faun

Dec 23, 2016


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Morgan has done it again! She sent me timeless, flawless keepsake jewelry of d3 to include breastmilk. She even did one piece with Joislen's ash and d3s placenta! We love you girl. I'll share his hair bead when I get home. Best jeweler in the world. Hands down. Heart of gold. A jewel herself. 

Joisey bear was there for her siblings first meet!

oh my word. turn up the volume on this one

Dec 21, 2016

proud grandma

Moms been putting in hours at Shine Bright Academy. recently. Today a little girl walked up to her and put a yellow butterfly on her hand. My mom said "you don't know how special yellow butterflies are to me". The little girl smiled and went on about her play. Grandma came n told me the story and I said lemme take a picture. I was only gunna photograph the sticker. But she posed whole body, cheesing big, and said, "I want to make sure it's by my heart!" πŸ’›
We love you, Grandma

my beauty

Dec 19, 2016

I had to look up what time d3 was born. I remember prolly a 72 hour play by play with the days surrounding Joislen's translation. I don't have to mentally record these specifics with him, cuz he gives me new specifics everyday. But with her. My earth portion with her was limited. And I've tucked every second away in my heart and mind. I can recall on those times for the sake of nostalgia, relating, and for comfort. Every time he smiles at me, my heart is overflowed with peace. When our out of womb bond began doesn't seem as important as continuing to enjoy it as it unfolds. I cherish all that has transpired but especially the now with him. I will always cherish what was with my daughter. But I especially cherish the now with her.
I got a tattoo when I was young that read "The only thing sweeter than memories is making them". I resented it after I lost my daughter. 'Nothing will ever be sweeter than her. No memory can replace her', I thought. I never considered I would have new memories to replace the traumatizing ones; with my daughter who lives in another dimension. Alas. Making memories with her has been sweeter than the original memories we made.

Everyday's a sweeter day with you